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Last week I discuss on seven hints on avoiding disagreement in your relationship. This week I’m going to continue from where I stopped.
In relationship sometimes your partner may do something you don’t like because nobody is perfect. And whether born again, holy or not in heaven, both of you are going to have disagreements sometimes and, now to the eighth helpful hint on avoiding disagreement.
8: Don’t be insensitive – The disapproval of a situation in a relationship may result in one party making certain requests. At first, this request is usually polite, or made with minimal signs of irritation when the request is ignored; it is often interpreted as either a challenge or a rejection. Either way, the result is confrontation be sensitive to your partner concern.
9: See the positive side of everything - Life is always as you see i. To the pessimist, the glass will always be half empty, while the optimist sees the glass as half-full. Somebody once said that nothing is as bad as they say it is. It can only be as bad as you want it to be. Perhaps this is a partial truth, but your partner’s actions can actually have the interpretation you give them. If you believe that he or she means well, you will rarely have problems with the things he or she does that you don’t agree with critical eyes will always see faults, even where there are none. Always strive to be positive at least until you can identify a repeated pattern of unwholesome behavior. This way, you will be saving yourself many fights in your relationship.
10: Personalize your resentment - When there is a disagreement, do not launch an all-out verbal attack at your partner, watch how you say what you have to say. Make “I” statements for instance, instead you saying it is only an irresponsible man that will stay out late at night, say something like, you know I always get so worried when you stay out late at night. Making “I” statements afford you the opportunity to take responsibility for your perspective and not on your partner. This removes the tone of accusation, criticism and attack from your statement.
11: Talk about it - In the heat of a bad situation, do not be the evasive party by taking on “I don’t want to talk about it position” no matter who you imagine is at fault, call a truce and enter a dialogue. Talk about it one of you may be surprised to discover that he or she is over reacting and that the situation is not exactly what he or she imagined it to be. By the time you have talked in a peaceful atmosphere new facts may have come to light. You may even laugh at your mistakes, a bad situation won’t get out of hand unless you can’t talk about it.  
12: Compromise - In every dispute all the partners involved hold on to a particular position or idea as it suits them, sometimes selfishly a dispute between you and your intended spouse is no exception. When you hold on tenaciously to your point of view and your partner does the same, there is bound to be a statement. The conflict continues, even against your best wishes. You are hoping that your partner will give in to your position, while he or she is expecting you to do the same. There should, however, not be competition between you. The real competition is out there, be mature about this, let go of some of your desires, meet your partner half way. Rationality dictates that he or she will do the same. A comprise means accepting a little discomfort in the interest of peace.
With these helpful hints I believe you can avoid disagreement in your relationship. Work things out amicably and have a long lasting wonderful relationship. Always remember that relationship lasts when you respect each other even when you disagree. Cheers!!!                             
Last week I discuss on seven hints on avoiding disagreement in your relationship. This week I’m going to continue from where I stopped.
In relationship sometimes your partner may do something you don’t like because nobody is perfect. And whether born again, holy or not in heaven, both of you are going to have disagreements sometimes and, now to the eighth helpful hint on avoiding disagreement.
8: Don’t be insensitive – The disapproval of a situation in a relationship may result in one party making certain requests. At first, this request is usually polite, or made with minimal signs of irritation when the request is ignored; it is often interpreted as either a challenge or a rejection. Either way, the result is confrontation be sensitive to your partner concern.
9: See the positive side of everything - Life is always as you see i. To the pessimist, the glass will always be half empty, while the optimist sees the glass as half-full. Somebody once said that nothing is as bad as they say it is. It can only be as bad as you want it to be. Perhaps this is a partial truth, but your partner’s actions can actually have the interpretation you give them. If you believe that he or she means well, you will rarely have problems with the things he or she does that you don’t agree with critical eyes will always see faults, even where there are none. Always strive to be positive at least until you can identify a repeated pattern of unwholesome behavior. This way, you will be saving yourself many fights in your relationship.
10: Personalize your resentment - When there is a disagreement, do not launch an all-out verbal attack at your partner, watch how you say what you have to say. Make “I” statements for instance, instead you saying it is only an irresponsible man that will stay out late at night, say something like, you know I always get so worried when you stay out late at night. Making “I” statements afford you the opportunity to take responsibility for your perspective and not on your partner. This removes the tone of accusation, criticism and attack from your statement.
11: Talk about it - In the heat of a bad situation, do not be the evasive party by taking on “I don’t want to talk about it position” no matter who you imagine is at fault, call a truce and enter a dialogue. Talk about it one of you may be surprised to discover that he or she is over reacting and that the situation is not exactly what he or she imagined it to be. By the time you have talked in a peaceful atmosphere new facts may have come to light. You may even laugh at your mistakes, a bad situation won’t get out of hand unless you can’t talk about it.  
12: Compromise - In every dispute all the partners involved hold on to a particular position or idea as it suits them, sometimes selfishly a dispute between you and your intended spouse is no exception. When you hold on tenaciously to your point of view and your partner does the same, there is bound to be a statement. The conflict continues, even against your best wishes. You are hoping that your partner will give in to your position, while he or she is expecting you to do the same. There should, however, not be competition between you. The real competition is out there, be mature about this, let go of some of your desires, meet your partner half way. Rationality dictates that he or she will do the same. A comprise means accepting a little discomfort in the interest of peace.
With these helpful hints I believe you can avoid disagreement in your relationship. Work things out amicably and have a long lasting wonderful relationship. Always remember that relationship lasts when you respect each other even when you disagree. Cheers!!!                             
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